half Mistress/half Friend

[dfeet]

half mistress/half friend

Mmmm i want to talk you all about a situation that i have:
i have a beautiful friend wich i work with. She is so smart and intelligent... all the jobs she make, are perfect. All customers admire Her. She has beautiful feet too. i told her several times about how i admire Her and that i consider Her like a GODDESS. i call her MY QUEEN. One time she sayd me "Shut up!, I don't want to listen anything". So i stay some minutes in silence, talking to nobody. When after a bit she (surprised) asked me: "did you lost your voice?" i answered that She told me to stay mute. She was a bit impressed of this fact, and it was the first time i showed Her my submitted nature. Day by day, this scene become more frequent. i think She understood that i'd like to be submitted by Her and that i like s/m, but at the same time i think she like just to play, so she never exceed. She often leaves Her papers on my desk, so i can archive them properly. And she asks me to take that thing, and then that other and to pass that other one or to do something else for her... all in one, so that i can't do everything in a few seconds, so then She add "RAPID!!! FASTER!!!"... so i excuse myself for being so slow and try to do my best. We never do this in public, just while We are alone. i told Her about my passion for feet, but she never permitted me to touch Hers
Sometimes she let me take some shoots to Her fantastic feet with my digital camera and just one time she permitted me to be trampled by Her for some seconds. But She said it will never happen again. because she said that i have to remove Her from my mind and so, it's about a year that i cant even photograph Her or Her feet. But i think that a part of Her feels good while dominating me, but as She often said, She is a bit scared of my mania (I'm a bit maniac, She says). i think She could be a perfect mistress: She is so determinate in everything She does, and is truly dominant when She go adirate.
i'm searching to take Her dominant part out of Her at the best, but maybe i'm doing something wrong. It's more than 5 years that i'm doing this every day...
i'm truly submitted to Her, but maybe She refuse me. Or is She dominating my mind just as She want? i can't realize. Anyway i'm not satisfied of this situation. i'd like that She could take more advantage of me and use me for Her purposes. She doesn't accept gift from me, even if it is something that She wanted. But sometimes She take over her dominating part and start joking with me by giving orders (as above). What do you think?

[kenrug]

but as She often said, She is a bit scared of my mania (I'm a bit maniac, She says).I think we could use a few Women’s points of view on this. But, you’re not putting this woman at ease. To use the vernacular, she thinks you’re a freak (http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=freak). And if that’s all she knows about you, and has no kink background against with to understand you, then her reaction is only natural.

If your eventual intent is to put her at ease then you probably have to show other parts of your personality. In other words: lighten up a bit.

If all you are is a submissive man, then fine, whatever. Get used to being in your situation. Vanilla women don’t encounter people like you, generally, so it tends to make them feel uncomfortable if they don’t already have some knowledge of the kink world. You’re a giant non sequitur to her: you don’t fit into her worldview. And that level of strangeness is often very unnerving. If you already do unexpected (and to her, inexplicable) things like bow and scrape to her, including asking her to walk on you, what other unexpected things might you do? (she may think)

If, however, there is something more to you – a personality, charm, cleverness, a sense of humor, talent at conversation – then showing that, displaying your humanness, might set her at ease and present to her a side she can understand and connect with.

Really, in the end, it’s up to you – and depends on what you’re made up of. If all you are is a walking bag of subbie need, then that’s all you’ll ever get out of this situation, at most. If there’s something of more worth to you, and if you show some of that, then maybe she’ll find something about you she can understand.

[Rich]

People are strange when you're a stranger
Faces look ugly when you're alone
Women seem wicked when you're unwanted
Streets are uneven when you're down

"The Doors"


In what would be the fantasy world of BDSM the lady in question would order you to her home &.................... :hornydevil:

I think Kenrug's ideas on this are most likely on target.
I mean..........He's living right in the middle of some of it.

Women in the real world have needs just like we do.
We all need to have many kinds of attention to survive on this insane planet.
Most of us are not just in need of being whipped. We also need to be stroked & loved. Supported when we are down, & helped back up when we fall.

If this woman is into doing the things you might enjoy;
It doesn't mean that's all she needs. ;)

[murdoch2348]

Yeah I'm with Kenrug and Rich here saying that she thinks your a bit of a freak. I've always found women who'd delight in making a mockery out of some guys but it's just as a joke, 99.9999999% chances of it being nothing physical, just whimsical slapstick to pass the time usually. The dwindling numbers of women on the message boards that are here purely for enjoyment and to converse with like minds rather than to start blurting out a sales pitch mid conversation about their site/video/etc should say something about the small amount of women in general interested or even knowledgable of these deviant but oh so fun practices.

As Ken was saying, if you show a bit of personality, outside of BDSM (nobody likes a 1 track mind) and she grows a little more interested in you as a person you might have a chance in getting her to share more intimate situations with you, but in the path you are following you are surely heading nowhere.

[kenrug]

The dwindling numbers of women on the message boards that are here purely for enjoyment and to converse with like minds rather than to start blurting out a sales pitch mid conversation about their site/video/etc should say something about the small amount of women in general interested or even knowledgable of these deviant but oh so fun practices.

I disagree on both points, actually.

I’ve been around MDFF almost from the month it stared back in 2002, and I have seen a substantial increase on “like-minded” women participating. This is especially true over the last year. Efforts by people here, such as DownUnder007’s “civility” campaign, have sweetened the atmosphere substantially. And women have found this place much more enjoyable and welcoming.

And as to the small amount of women interested in “deviant” practices, I couldn’t disagree more. The number of women I encounter these days, both in person and online, who are into the “scene” is dramatically up as compared to years past. In fact, as a nod to Mistress Sara’s other thread, exposing “vanilla” women to kink sparks a higher level of positive response than with “vanilla” men. From the long-view perspective (decades), I couldn’t be more enthusiastic. Women are much more socially free to explore their dominant sides.

(nobody likes a 1 track mind)
Well said.