Do we have evidence that FemDom is going mainstream?

[equidum]

I was on the Place de la Concorde in Paris, May 6th to celebrate the new french President's victory .... I was amazed by the huge number of girls riding their BF's shoulders !!! Many of them just made short appearances above the crowd, just for a few minutes, and their "horses" gave up. Sometimes they tried again some time later.... Those horses were not true submissives, I thought, and their riders were not truely dominant ....

But dozens of riders remained seated for very long periods on their horses' shoulders ... Those did not seem to bother AT ALL about the pain of their bearers, and just enjoyed the show, humping and rocking on their slaves' shoulders, clapping their hands, singing with the band .... The guys beneath usually were immobile, looking straight ahead, indifferent to everything except, it seemed, maintain their growingly painful standing position .... Those, I thought, were true slaves, and not afraid to show it to everyone around !!!

Well .... These are a typical submissive's thoughts, said a voice somewhere in my brains .... But something happened, which comforted my "submissive thoughts" ...

A TV reporter was going thru the crowd, asking questions to a lot of people. As most people were with one or more friends, he asked his question and handed the mike to the girl, or the guy, or to whoever seemed to be most willing to speak ... Then he came to my fetish riding couple, which I had been closely watching for over ten minutes ... The girl was pretty, and perfectly relax and happy on Her slave's shoulders. The guy was stoically enduring the lovely torture, his face distorted with pain... The reporter came to them, and, completely ignoring the horse, lifted his mike towards the rider, who without even bothering to lean towards the extended mike, chatted and giggled, for, maybe one minute with the TV reporter... Then the reporter went to another couple ... THE HORSE HAD BEEN IGNORED AS IF HE JUST DID NOT EXIST !

And, monday 7th, I saw them again, on TV, during a political talkshow, called "C'dans l'air" ....

So, this interview of a girl, riding a guy, completely ignored because he was, it seems to me, considered just as a "horse", has been shown to a few million French people. And it seems, nobody is shocked by the poor treatment inflicted to the guy!

Ain't that a proof of the growingly "normal" dominant position of women in our western civilisation ?

Do you have such examples of FemDom going mainstream ?

[swollen]

Excellent post equidum, so nice to read something so well written and balanced.

As Women in western society become ever more assured, empowered and confident, I think we can definitely expect to see a growing acceptance of behaviour that just a few years ago was totally outside the norm. I think most men now realise that it's Women who have the final say in most exchanges between the sexes - just as it should be!

Once again, great post.

[Rodzo]

As Rodzo, the famous, talented (and sexy) artiste
I have no quibble with women having the last word

I just wish they would get to it a bit sooner . .

[equidum]

Hello, Rodzo and Swollen

Thanks for your feedback! It is true that women, unfortunately, don't realize, neither very soon, nor very often, their true place in this world : ON TOP ! It seems to me they don't WANT to asume it, although an increasing number of males implore them to take over ....... Too bad !!!

Equdum

[Scorpio]

Check out this link from the Trample Board.

This was on TV on Sunday night as part of the final night of a reality show that has been running for a couple of months now.

I must admit I could hardly believe what I was seeing!

http://www.mistressdestiny.com/forums/showthread.php?t=68993

Scorpio ;)

[equidum]

Fantastic TV show !!! And in Portugal, a very religious , catholic country, with a very "macho" image !

This really shows, I think, that some kind of feminine supremacy is more and more accepted, at least in the media! But the media manage the public opinion, the public opinion makes the governments, who make the law !!!!

Please, Ladies, please, hear the message !!!

Equidum

[buttcushion]

I think femdom has been mainstream for a while, just not specifics like fcesitting, trampling, etc? Its more just the whips and chains and such you see on tv shows.

[DTKdoug]

The Femdom imfluence can been seen in the fashion industry and advertising every day. Depends what you call 'mainstream' I can't see a day soon when a mistress can lead a slave on all fours along a city street without getting many stares. It does surprise me though how a number of femdom pics on the net are taken outdoors in busy city locations. I wonder what the passers by think of it.

[weallseve]

BDSM in general is more accepted now. My guess is that the younger people, due to Aids,etc.-have been using more sexual play than their parents did. The information available on the internet allowed them to realize that they DID like this or that element of S & M.
Also, women are taking more charge of their lives/relationships in visible ways.
Maybe we can all get jobs as "boot shine boys".

[crudwell]

No, thats not it ! The Maledom world has its dominion as well...

Its just that people are being a little less moral and the media is turning into a harlot...

And if you feel there is something out there its your own perceptions coming out !!!

[Jadis]

Sadly I have to say that I still think much of it is seen - and used - as some sort of aberration of nature. Now I have to admit - I love the show "CSI" but when they had an episode featuring BDSM and a Professional Domme House and the like ... (though I was in love with the Mistress part - she was fantastic in my opinion) ... I thought the rest of it was doctored up to look as freakish and twisted as possible. Like there is something that is WRONG with people that enjoy these sorts of behaviors.

Yes, it's becoming more "mainstream" but I think it's being used more as a crutch than in the past: to describe a degenerate population per say. Most people miss the absolute freedom, power, pleasure and depth that is in a BDSM relationship (I mean seriously: you have GOT to trust your partner to the ultimate extreme - you must have complete and open communication about EVERYTHING {if you're having a bad day, you don't "play" without someone knowing you're pissed off ... and without making amends for it in the beginning so that things don't get out of hand} ... and you have to have your wits and thoughts about you - there's no games and manipulations {normally} involved).

I really wish it WOULD become more mainstream and not so much of a deviant or abnormal idea ...

[lickfeet]

Hi there

Im sure that you must have read in papers that they have announced few regions in China as 'Female-Dominant' - wherein females will rule over men - and the government will actually make this a tourist spot!!! If this isn't mainstream femdom, then what else cud be...

[equidum]

Homosexuality also was once seen, and showed, as an aberration of nature. But even that homophobic point of view was an improvement versus older times, when it was even forbidden, not only to BE gay, but even to TALK about it, let alone confess one's homosexuality ( Poor Oscar Wilde !!)!!!!

I wish it could be the same for BDSM, mainly for FemDom : We are now in a time when it is "allowed" to talk about it, show some of it, etc .... I agree with Madame Jadis, it is usually done in a negative or preposterous way .... But, bad as it is, it is still an improvement, it is still better than the forced, ashamed silence which was the rule, "jadis", I mean, "in the olden time" ;-).

Now, the gay community has had the guts to "come out" with their shameful sins (!!!!).... In the same way, it is up to us, BDSM "sinners", and, first of all, FemDom addicts, to stand up and fight for what we are ...: Not "sinners", not "Untermensch", not sick, but normal, decent, free and proud citizens of our wonderful westen democracies .....

Vive la "Gay pride" !!! Vive la "FemDom pride"

Equidum ( The proud donkey-to-be of Madame Jadis .........!)

[crudwell]

Yes O great donkey of Jadis..... I do believe that people think its okay to make their sins a public thing and offending God is the in thing these days.... and when you ask them about it... they conveniently say he exists not...

[crudwell]

Homosexuality also was once seen, and showed, as an aberration of nature. But even that homophobic point of view was an improvement versus older times, when it was even forbidden, not only to BE gay, but even to TALK about it, let alone confess one's homosexuality ( Poor Oscar Wilde !!)!!!!

I wish it could be the same for BDSM, mainly for FemDom : We are now in a time when it is "allowed" to talk about it, show some of it, etc .... I agree with Madame Jadis, it is usually done in a negative or preposterous way .... But, bad as it is, it is still an improvement, it is still better than the forced, ashamed silence which was the rule, "jadis", I mean, "in the olden time" ;-).

Now, the gay community has had the guts to "come out" with their shameful sins (!!!!).... In the same way, it is up to us, BDSM "sinners", and, first of all, FemDom addicts, to stand up and fight for what we are ...: Not "sinners", not "Untermensch", not sick, but normal, decent, free and proud citizens of our wonderful westen democracies .....

Vive la "Gay pride" !!! Vive la "FemDom pride"

Equidum ( The proud donkey-to-be of Madame Jadis .........!)


Yes O great donkey of Jadis..... I do believe that people think its okay to make their sins a public thing and offending God is the in thing these days.... and when you ask them about it... they conveniently say he exists not...


:sigh:

[equidum]

But .... Crudwell ! ... Nobody knows whether God exists or not... One thing is sure though : If He exists, he is neither Yahve, nor Jesus, nor Allah, nor any other divinity, 100% made by man, created by man to soothe his own anguish and rule his community .... These Gods are a useful invention, although they can be and have often been misused, but they ARE NOT GOD ! And , if by some, to me totally impossible hasard, one of those were THE TRUE GOD, the religion built by the priests, fathers, mollahs, would have, since long, totally humanized, i.e, distorted His message, and it would be best to keep away from them in order to have a chance to be touched by His grace !!!!!!

BTW .... Why would God be a f...... male ? Why not a woman, or a donkey, like me ??? :-)

Equidum

[crudwell]

you mean the earth was created by people ??? .... It had to be a male God because .... everything created was round and only males have a fetish to be facesat by those rounded objects......

[equidum]

You've got a point !!! The never-ending round universe must be a facesitting's addict masterpiece !!! But....If God loves to be facesat, he has certainly created a Goddess to fulfill His fantasies .... So She bound Him on a cloud and sat fullweight on His face.... I think She is still seated there ... those Gods an Goddesses have no sense of time! So ... Who is boss up there, the seat or the sitter ?

[crudwell]

Well God is boss... he might be facesat... but that doesn't mean he doesn't have eyes at the back of his head.....

[weallseve]

A little devil's advocate on god:
How did the supreme being come into existence? Evolution? Self-creation?
As to the gender part, there are a few schools of thought:
1. Hermaphrodite-can be a lot of fun on those lonely nights.
2. Who says there is only one of these beings? Mr. & Mrs. God are switches, and they play every day except(heaven forbid) Sunday. Ball busting one day, breast torture the next. Monotheists, pick one.
3. Genderless-my idea of hell.

[crudwell]

crap wellseve...

why do things have to be created ? thats only human thinking...

some things always were there... and so was God...

nice 3 point follow thru... hehe

[lontem]

I think it's great that the BDSM world is becoming more accepted and more people are embracing thier dominant/submissive sides BUT...would it be as hot for you if it *was* totally mainstream? The humiliatin is a big part of it for me - if people were just to accept me being lead aorund like a dog on all fours as part of normal behaviour (like that would ever happen, but "hpyeothetically") then it would no longer have it's charm.

[equidum]

Slavery is probably the ultimate in the BDSM area, either voluntary or not ... And, being a slave, eve in a slave-state is a permanent humiliation! The 4 million niggers of the ante-bellum South felt humiliation each second of their life....However slavery was then peretly "mainstream"!

So, don't worry, Lontem, when you find your Mistress, you'll also find, thevery same day, permanent humiliation, even if slavery is re-established, <mainstreamed> in New York ..... (Ms Clinton, please help !!!!).

Equidum

[weallseve]

Mrs. Clinton should have enslaved Bill a long time ago. A chastity device would have allowed him to still jog into any McDonald's in sight, and kept his cock out of Monica's mouth. Fat, dumb, but he would not have been so happy.

[Blushing Slut]

Well, I know a few Vancouver Dominatrix's that regularly ride one of their devotees around in public view. But overall, i agree with you, Equidum. The aspect of the dominant female is everywhere in North American society. Particulary with the upcoming generations. High school girls can be quite rowdy and aggressive - spitting on the street, not afraid to kick someones butt, jokingly. The young guys, quite often have this kind of drone-like look to them sometimes - similar to your description of the slave-horse. And in my own life i have had three girlfriends who were 'normal' in the beginning, but became dominant with no initial prompting from me. And there was never any discussion about the ethicacy of the acts we performed in our love making.
They comfortably, nay, excitedly shifted into their new sexually dominant roles, just as comfortably, (and excitedly!) as they slipped their asses onto my face!! Like your writing style. Love your city. Thanks again for your kind comments earlier. Bs

[ddsilver]

I think you're misreading the trend. The trend isn't an acceptance of femdom as much as it is a wider societal trend of ignoring men as a whole. I mean, even when the President of the United States appears in public with his wife, there's going to be a couple of reporters who are there strictly to ask Michelle what dress she's going to wear to wherever the hell it is she goes.

It's nothing to do with femdom, and more to do with shabby journalism.

...

Either that, or I'm reading WAY too much into it, and it's just rude in most cultures to ask somebody in the middle of working (carrying a woman in what we in America call "piggyback") a bunch of stupid questions, lol!