Where do i start?

[martinmartin]

After learning alot about bdsm i now wondering what to do next? Im male, 19 and have never been trampled or dominated but it is my ultimate fantasy. Am i to young? How can i experience this life for real? Any advice?

[HerOttoman]

Welcome to the club!

First off, no you are not too young. Anyone over 18 is allowed in here. And we won't go into the details about anything prior to that; but I'm sure you didn't turn 18 and "POOF! Your a sub." But, rules are rules, and they are good rules, so let's talk about what happens next...

After I reminisce about that for a minute. You see, I am 39, and when I was 19, I was in your shoes, too. I wanted nothing more than to be kidnapped, tied up, and walked on by a bunch of mean, hot bitches. I was SOOO into that stuff, and as that was 20 years ago, I did not have a clue others were around with similar ideas, let alone that there were women who would actually enjoy this stuff, too. (Hence the kidnapping fantasy.) Take a few seconds to thank your lucky stars for the internet...

OK, next thing for you to do-- keep an open mind, and get out there and circulate. The odds of you running into a "date" who also likes this stuff are very slim, so you need to search out resources that you know already pertain to what you are into. I don't know where in the UK you are, but I do know they have great fetish parties, so maybe do what I did: find out where they are, and go to one. Your first will certainly be an eye-opening experience, and after you get over the natural nervousness, you should have fun. I'm sure other folks here could help you more, depending on the size and location of your town.

You could try a pro-dom, as they will be very understanding (no pun intended) of your needs; but as I was just as finacially strapped as you're average 19 year old, and also didn't even know they existed, I've never been to one, so I can't vouche. And I don't know your situation, so that's really up to you. Look into it if it suits you, and if you really like the dramatic element of BDSM. (And stay away from the ones who insist on getting a "token" from you everytime you contact them; it's not fem-dom, it's a rip-off.)

Or, you could maybe put an ad in a local hook-up rag, but I would use that as a last resort. You never know what you'll get, and it won't be as good as you expect it to be.

Anyhow, you've got 20 years on me, so there is plenty of time to act-- but don't do what I did, and ignore the urges, thinking nobody would understand. Listen here, soldier: you've got two months to get dominated--no reason for you to take longer than that, if you really want it! And I expect a progress report!

[martinmartin]

Hey thats a wonderful post! I hope i can experience it in my life at some point although its also scary. Id love to know why i have so many fantasies with femdom but i guess i need to accept it as part of me.

One day, and when that day comes i will enjoy every second!

[scotdenell]

Living in the UK is an advantage, plenty of action there! Plan your first encounter carfefully.....it is the one you WILL remember:rasta:

[Scorpio]

Where in the UK are you?

I will be back in the UK in July and if you are anywhere around my area who knows what may happen!

Scorpio ;)

[oddworld17801]

Where in the UK are you?

I will be back in the UK in July and if you are anywhere around my area who knows what may happen!

Scorpio ;)

Wow, Martin! I know what I'd be doing if someone like Scorpio replied to one of my posts with something like that!

[Jadis]

Where in the UK are you?

I will be back in the UK in July and if you are anywhere around my area who knows what may happen!

Scorpio ;)

You can't get a much better offer than that ;)

[martinmartin]

I am privileged to get a reply like that! Thankyou :)
Im near Manchester :worship: :worship:

[Scorpio]

I will be on the other side of the country - Yorkshire and North Lincolnshire!

Scorpio ;)