New to the BDSM World

[pleasurehim12]

Hi there everyone. My boyfriend has been hiding the fact that he loves BDSM...S/M. We've tried it a little bit here and there, but I am not sure I am doing things right or being aggressive enough. Or maybe I'm not cut out for it.
I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips for a beginner?
Thanks!

[Jadis]

Hi there everyone. My boyfriend has been hiding the fact that he loves BDSM...S/M. We've tried it a little bit here and there, but I am not sure I am doing things right or being aggressive enough. Or maybe I'm not cut out for it.
I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips for a beginner?
Thanks!

The best suggestion I could give is go slowly - experiment - and take it easy. You're not going to learn everything overnight. My own boi was adverse to several things in the beginning (cock and ball play, trampling, smothering) but he's since branched out and is rather fond of them. There is no "right way" - it's all very individual and suited to the person playing. I would advise reading and learning as much as you can, but follow your heart - your gut - and your boyfriend's desires and you should be fine ~_^

[pleasurehim12]

The best suggestion I could give is go slowly - experiment - and take it easy. You're not going to learn everything overnight. My own boi was adverse to several things in the beginning (cock and ball play, trampling, smothering) but he's since branched out and is rather fond of them. There is no "right way" - it's all very individual and suited to the person playing. I would advise reading and learning as much as you can, but follow your heart - your gut - and your boyfriend's desires and you should be fine ~_^

Thanks a lot! He is really into anything and everything that bdsm has to offer. Degrating, trampling, smothering, cleaning my shoes, feet fetishes, etc. I've tortured his balls and dick, smothered him, and stepped on his stomach, I'm getting better at it now, but I wish I knew more about it and what to do faster. Can someone please explain the trust thing that comes along with all of this? I thought this was suppose to connect a couple better, but things are the same for us, nothing has changed.

[MistressRouge]

Hi there everyone. My boyfriend has been hiding the fact that he loves BDSM...S/M. We've tried it a little bit here and there, but I am not sure I am doing things right or being aggressive enough. Or maybe I'm not cut out for it.
I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips for a beginner?
Thanks!

Hello pleasurehim,

S/M can be very enjoyable for both of you to explore together, especially sado-masochistic activities that you both engage in. It is a great journey of exploration, to start from the beginning of a relationship. I believe you have both already overcome the main factor of a great union, by sharing your particular interests in BDSM. Many have to hide or conceal their interest, passion or enjoyment of the lifestyle, so I commend your boyfriend for being honest about it, seems like a very strong bond/connection you have already :)

Just as Lady Jadis mentioned, it takes lots of time and starting slowly is best, trying new things, some may work, some may not, but keeping that level of communication and sharing thoughts, and ideas too.

You are a natural already huny, you have already tried things that many wouldnt, so welldone :)

There are quite a few forums on the net, information and resources.

Email Me direct if you need any ideas, help etc. :) I would love to.

Warm regards,

Mistress Roug'e x

p.s. I am STILL learning new things after 9 years as a lifestyle/Professional Domina, so it is always a learning curve in this wonderful lifestyle ;)

[MistressRouge]

Wow, Mistress Rouge - I just looked at your clips store and all I can say is this internet distance think is absolutely killing me!

Thankyou Marcus :)

Maybe it is a good thing lol.

Warm regards,

Mistress Roug'e.

[pleasurehim12]

Hello pleasurehim,

S/M can be very enjoyable for both of you to explore together, especially sado-masochistic activities that you both engage in. It is a great journey of exploration, to start from the beginning of a relationship. I believe you have both already overcome the main factor of a great union, by sharing your particular interests in BDSM. Many have to hide or conceal their interest, passion or enjoyment of the lifestyle, so I commend your boyfriend for being honest about it, seems like a very strong bond/connection you have already :)

Just as Lady Jadis mentioned, it takes lots of time and starting slowly is best, trying new things, some may work, some may not, but keeping that level of communication and sharing thoughts, and ideas too.

You are a natural already huny, you have already tried things that many wouldnt, so welldone :)

There are quite a few forums on the net, information and resources.

Email Me direct if you need any ideas, help etc. :) I would love to.

Warm regards,

Mistress Roug'e x

p.s. I am STILL learning new things after 9 years as a lifestyle/Professional Domina, so it is always a learning curve in this wonderful lifestyle ;)



Thank you so much for the advice! It had really helped a lot!

My guy has been different lately though, so I have not been into it as much as I would like to be.

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[pleasurehim12]

Recently, my guy and I got more into things. I trampled him more forcefully than I ever have before and busted his balls and penis. The feeling I got was indescribable! Thanks so much for all the advice everyone!