Torn between Femdom and facesitting

[tonguester]

Moderator Comment: I just thought this thread would be more appropriate in the disucssion section rather than the images ... and would get more attention this way as well.

xox Lady Jadis

I enjoy reading the threads written by dominant women in this section of the site. I am seriously turned on by cruel women and I think a woman who uses both sexual power and cruelty over a man is the most marvellous being on the planet.

I am definitely a sexually submissive person but, having read some of these threads recently, I am not sure if I really am a true masochist. Some of the descriptions of sessions and of the things the ladies like to do to slaves involves mind control and pure pain, which of course is great. However, while I love the idea that there are sadistic women out there who are turned on by this, I think I'm too chicken shit to cope with some of the things I have seen done to slaves. Some of the pictures of slave's bodies showing whip weals and heel marks make me wince and leave me a bit cold. The poor slave gets all the pain but none of the rewards. I.e., no smothering or facesitting. This is only my opinion and of course I am not judging anyone elses tastes at all.

I have a passion for facesitting and sometimes feel the facesitting section lacks a femdom element. At the same time, this S+M section seems to lack the sensual facesitting element. Why can't we have both combined?

Comments anyone?

[Mistress Saskia]

Hi

In my sessions I do mix the two. I feel that maybe a ot of Dommes do. However, this is not always easy to put across on forums, with simple pics and text.

Not all facesitters only facesit. I certainly don't. I do many things. And vice versa. Though, I am guilty of mainly sticking to the facesitting forums. Which probably makes it come across as that is all I do :S lol

Slaves and subs who enjoy being really hurt are oftne referred to as 'pain sluts'. This is simply because they actually get off on the pain. Some even go into what is known as 'subspace'. So, this is what they get from it.

I do not think anyone involved in the femdom world walks away having never got anything. It is all mutual pleasure.

Regards

Mistress Saskia

[tonguester]

Thanks for the reply Saskia. If I was living in the UK, I'd be a regular customer of yours I'm sure.

[Mistress Saskia]

That is a compliment indeed. If you lived in the UK, I amy let you be a regular of mine ;) lol

[Jadis]

I have to agree with Saskia here ... I often use sensuality and seduction in my play, whether it's face sitting or just basic scene. In fact - I love the reaction I get from that type of intereaction almost more than any other type ... the heightened sort of breathing and the like.

I just think that it's hard to come across in a sort of picture format. You need to show the most extreme to have it translate across the venue appropriately.

Of course there are those that enjoy the pain more, or there are types and scenes that involve both sorts - hard and soft - but that's also something that needs to be talked about and discussed prior to the scene anyways. If you're not into pain on that level: be honest enough to say so (the worst thing anyone can do is keep their mouths shut when in that situation ... it's dangerous for starters).

I myself am not a very "hard" Domme ... I will leave marks on occation but they fade quickly and I am always interested and attuned to what my sub is feeling at the time. And I've learned, with time and care and that bit of a push ... the sub can start taking more, and liking more, in the intensity (not necessarily pain) than he did in the beginning.

Hope that helps!

[Mistress Saskia]

That was a very good answer Jadis. I like the way you put it :)

[tonguester]

Thanks for your input Mistresses Saskia and Jadis. The world is a happier place for having temptresses like you in it.

[Mistress Saskia]

It is great to know what we do puts a......smile on the faces of others ;)

[Mistress Saskia]

That was a beautiful post.

I love what I do, so I need no thank you. People can be negative against Pro Dommes, as we get paid for what we do.

However, Pro Dommes are a great way for people to access their 'fetish'

No one should ever feel guilty for what they like. Aslong as it does not harm someone who is not consenting, then it's a great thing.

[Jadis]

Thanks for your input Mistresses Saskia and Jadis. The world is a happier place for having temptresses like you in it.

Thank you sweetie ... I know I love the reaction and knowing that people enjoy what I'm doing as much as I'm enjoying myself!

[draculay]

I think facesitting is just a very miniscule aspect of the femdom life, its too bad because we guys would wish women would love to facesit 24/7 like we were the chairs or sofas... but we can't change the mindset of women ... :/

[Mistress Saskia]

Facesitting is great...but 24/7...would simply be too much of a good thing lol

[Jadis]

I think facesitting is just a very miniscule aspect of the femdom life, its too bad because we guys would wish women would love to facesit 24/7 like we were the chairs or sofas... but we can't change the mindset of women ... :/

Now if we did nothing ELSE but facesitting: we'd be missing out on all the other wondeful things we could be doing to you ...

Variety is the spice of ife ... besides: we don't want our seats to get bored of being seats either.