This Might Be An Odd Request...

[jencamp1245]

I am a female, and am really into dominating my boyfriend. We have fun doing what we do, and I enjoy it also, but in my heart, deep down I am a sub. I have been for as long as I can remember.

My boyfriend, before me, would see professional dommes for various activities. I on the other hand have never experienced true male domination. There are many resources for a man to go to to get dominated by a female, but as far as I can tell there aren't too many for a female to go and get dominated by a male.

I am needing very much to experience my fantasies. While my boyfriend tries, he just isn't the dominate type, and can't fulfill my needs in that way.

I know this is a femdom site, but I am hoping someone might read this and know where I might be able to find some resources on males dominating women. I am in California if that helps at all.

Thanks!

[draculay]

if you like dominating and being a sub, then you are a switch.... maybe you can induce your beau into the switch role. You see this is all fantasy and roleplay is like acting. I don't believe in people who were born with a whip in the hand. Most dommes learn the ropes from other dommes. If you want to maintain a healthy sexual relationship with your beau, then he needs to learn maledom roleplay. So in effect that would make the twos of youz switches...

enough electricity for today...

:eek::eyebrows:

[filthyfootlicker]

role reversal is one of the hottest forms of foreplay. when my lady and i play i start to dominate her then out of the blue, i will wake up to being hancuffed to the bed with a pair of her filthy socks being shoved into my mouth and her slapping my ass with a ping pong paddle, and being "forced" to sniff her filty soles. all the while leaking so much cum that i stain the sheets.
see if he can do some role reversal, if not you can find some other males out there who will help you out.

[Mistress Sara]

My advice to you would be to go join a BDSM club in your area. But please be very careful on who you choose to give yourself to.

There are plenty of guys out there who use the BDSM scene and have absolutely no idea of what they are doing. I have seen this with My own eyes. Just make sure you know the person that you are going to be dealing with very very well.

And I mean know them for a very long time, watch how they play with other people and how they take care of their partner when the scene is over.

You may even get to know them on a vanilla level as well, so you can see just how they are when they deal with people in general.

Hope that helps.

Always Above...
Mistress Sara

[HerOttoman]

Good advice, Sara. It's funny how all the guys talk about wanting to really be abused by a woman, but we turn it around, and when that sexy shoe is on the other foot, everyone gets very concerned about the lady being taken advantage of. And really, we should, and not just becaue we're subs. Sara is right: There's a lot of potential for abuse here, and you want to be very sure you are not going to be victimized. Your best bet, really, is to be persistant with your boyfriend, and pick up a guidebook ("Screw the roses, send me the thorns" is almost the "Bible" for this sort of thing...)

My GF (oops! Wife!) was also like that, and I too was never really into pushing her around sexually; but I have come to like it much more, and even though I would say 19 times out of 20 I am the sub, the "one" is pretty exciting, too. Do I want that to be the future of our relationship? No, but it's pretty cool like this, and we're both growing into our roles comfortably.

Lead him in the direction YOU need to go, and hope he follows. If he's not capable, then that's one thing; if he's not willing to at least try, you have bigger problems than this one coming in the future...

Best of luck to you, and welcome to the best forum in the whole kinky virtual universe!

[Heckron]

My advice to you would be to go join a BDSM club in your area. But please be very careful on who you choose to give yourself to.

There are plenty of guys out there who use the BDSM scene and have absolutely no idea of what they are doing. I have seen this with My own eyes. Just make sure you know the person that you are going to be dealing with very very well.

And I mean know them for a very long time, watch how they play with other people and how they take care of their partner when the scene is over.

You may even get to know them on a vanilla level as well, so you can see just how they are when they deal with people in general.

Hope that helps.

Always Above...
Mistress Sara

Take this advice to heart. One of my very best friends is a female submissive and unfortunately until recently when she met her soon to be husband...she has a poor track record trying to find a dominant guy who still treats her well(attempted rape on more than one occasion). Like everyone else has said...be safe when playing this way...

Lead him in the direction YOU need to go, and hope he follows. If he's not capable, then that's one thing; if he's not willing to try, you have bigger problems than this one in the future...


Also very good advice. I really have nothing to add other than what these two have already said.

[Jadis]

I haven't anything to add other than my agreement and the word of caution as well: some (men and women both, I've seen each kind) can and do use this as a means for their own gains and a type of manipulation and abuse that is NOT consentual.

[jencamp1245]

Thank you very much for your replies. I appreciate you all taking the time to do so, despite this being a femdom board.

I have broached the subject with my boyfriend and he is more than willing to do this. Guess I just had to have the courage to speak up about it. I actually wrote him a story which had him dominating me which was actually a lot easier than telling him "I want you to tie my legs to my arms, paddle me, and pee on me."

He is definately a sub, but is more than willing to try to dominate me to make me happy. I think I have found a great guy....

Thanks again for your replies. I took them all to heart!

[Taylor]

It sounds like you worked it out but I will give my answer anyway just in case- alt.com or collarme.com

[rugman]

My advice to you would be to go join a BDSM club in your area. But please be very careful on who you choose to give yourself to.

There are plenty of guys out there who use the BDSM scene and have absolutely no idea of what they are doing. I have seen this with My own eyes. Just make sure you know the person that you are going to be dealing with very very well.

And I mean know them for a very long time, watch how they play with other people and how they take care of their partner when the scene is over.

You may even get to know them on a vanilla level as well, so you can see just how they are when they deal with people in general.

Hope that helps.

Always Above...
Mistress Sara
"and how they take care of their partner when the scene is over"

Damn. At least three times as smart as me. (that'd be an IQ of 3000, by the way :D ). It still continues to amaze me how Mistress Sara seems to come up with the best answer to any question.

I did nothing to deserve Her. Random chance. In winning her I used up all my life's "good luck." Which explains why the receipt printer goes out when I get to the grocery store checkout line. :D
Thank you very much for your replies. I appreciate you all taking the time to do so, despite this being a femdom board.

I have broached the subject with my boyfriend and he is more than willing to do this. Guess I just had to have the courage to speak up about it. I actually wrote him a story which had him dominating me which was actually a lot easier than telling him "I want you to tie my legs to my arms, paddle me, and pee on me."

He is definately a sub, but is more than willing to try to dominate me to make me happy. I think I have found a great guy....

Thanks again for your replies. I took them all to heart!
The "story" idea was inspired brilliance. I don't do dom, and Mistress Sara has no interest in the "other side" of events, but I've hinted at new sub ideas to her by presenting stories I found interesting.

[charlie]

Cool thread, I hope you sort it out and enjoy both sides.

I've never dom'd but would love to give it a go. I like the idea of tying up my girlfriend and then having her suck my cock blindfolded, so reckon there is a small switch part of me. 95% sub though!

[sotto]

I´m a sub myself and go along with the normal exchanges here without worries. One thing that is a bit curious though is that during 99% of the normal scenes (man under a woman) noone raises the question about the man getting abused or victimized, but imediately when a woman takes on the sub role this becomes the topic. Isnt the hazard real enough with males as subs ?! Not trying to provoque, just being curious.

Cheers

[Seven_Edmonton]

This is very true, sotto. Despite the massive cultural overhaul and changing opinions on the roles of males and females in society, I think it may always be a male instinct to try and protect what they deem to be "their woman". It's coded into our genes, and blasted into our minds through media from childhood onwards. It's awfully hard to overcome that.

[Stryder]

Yes please be careful with this type of thing. A fetish club would be a good place to start at least you have protection in numbers. There are too many guys out there who call themselves so called masters when they are just evil cruel and dangerous creeps. There are only a couple of them that I respect because being who I am I can tell when they are treating female sub's with respect and dignity and finding out what that woman may respond to rather than getting their own kicks debasing a woman. Two come to mind as quite good and I will see them in action tonight but I live a long way from you.

I have seen the wrong end of what can happen to a woman when some imbecile with a hidden agenda does his so called magic...and would not like to think anyone else would have to endure that.

It is more rare for a man to end up in this situation as a sub (unless with another male) I have come close once or twice but can usually pick someone with dangerous circuits.